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25 Tips From Real Fuckbuddies For Keeping It Casual

Everyone loves the idea of a fuckbuddy, but not everyone can handle it. If you think about it, it requires a lot more discipline and respect than a traditional relationship because there are a lot of things you can't do with the other person. Some people think they'll be okay with the restrictions until they want something more, and others find themselves realizing that casual sex isn't for them.

If you think you can manage a fuckbuddy, here are some tips from 25 real fuckbuddies that we asked to help guide you in keeping it casual.

1. Honesty is Key to Casual Fucks

   "When you're in a fuckbuddy relationship, you have to tell each other the truth always. Be clear about what you want and what your limitations are so the expectations are set and stick to them. That's how to keep everything casual when having casual sex."
   
   - Jenna (22) & Ryan (21)
   
   

2. Respect Your Fuck Friend

   "Respect is everything. If they're busy or don't want to hook up when you hit them up, try again some other time. Don't be desperate and beg them to come over."
   
   - Mark (27) & Edgar (29)
   
   

3. Keep a Fuckbuddy Relationship Open

   "Being fuckbuddies doesn't have to mean sex is exclusive between you two. You can still keep your options open and hook up with other people, just make sure you talk about it first."
   
   - Miranda (25) & Jose (23)
   
   

4. What Happens Between You and Your FuckPal Stays Between You Two

   "The worst thing you can do is open your mouth and blabber to everyone about your sex life. There's no need to get other people involved; just keep it between the two of you."
   
   - Lisa (23) & Ray (25)
   
   

5. Sex Near Me? Keep it Safe

   "If you're gonna be seeing other people, make it known to the other and make sure you're protecting yourself with every partner you have."
   
   - Sasha (21) & Bryan (22)
   
   

6. Don't Impose on Friends with Benefits

   "You guys have separate lives from each other, so don't stick your nose in where it doesn't belong. Don't start inviting yourself to their events or friend outings - if they want you there, they'll invite you themselves."
   
   - Frank (25) & Ian (27)
   
   

7. Keep Your Romantic Feelings In Check

   "If you ever sense something's up, make sure to check in with them and that they're still down for the no-strings-attached thing."
   
   - Denise (19) & Abel (20)
   
   

8. Give Your Hookup Buddy Space

   "You don't have to see them all the time; you can even keep it to once a week, but you should never smother them."
   
   - Rachel (24) & Amanda (24)
   
   

9. Don't Overstay After Local Sex

   "If they're kind enough to let you stay over, don't linger around for longer than you have to. That also goes for after sex and hanging out."
   
   - Cassandra (28) & Rene (26)
   
   

10. Don't Expect Them to Be At Your Beck and Call

    "While they are your fuckbuddy, they're not a hooker you can call up whenever you want, and they'll come to you. Respect their time and make plans more than booty calls to accommodate each other."
    
    - Daniela (25) & Gabe (24)
    
    

11. PDA Isn't Welcome

    "If you're hanging out in public, don't act like a couple unless you're comfortable with it. Just keep it cool and go out as friends, which means no making out or holding hands."
    
    - Blair (27) & Hector (27)
    
    

12. Never Leave Your Stuff At Their Place

    "Don't be that person and leave your belongings at their place, in their car, or wherever you're having sex."
    
    - Pamela (23) & Josh (24)
    
    

13. Don't Call or Text (or Sext)

    "Unless it's urgent or checking if they're around, don't text or call them. Keeping the communnication minimal is one of the main parts of keeping it casual."
    
    - Lucero (19) & Ryan (19)
    
    

14. Let Each Other Know When You Want to Stop Banging

    "Whenever one of you wants to back out or wants to see someone else, let them know and respect their decision."
    
    - Gina (22) & Carlos (24)
    
    

15. Don't Be Controlling with Your Bang Buddy

    "They're not your boyfriend or girlfriend, so there's no room for jealousy when you see them hanging out with other people."
    
    - Kiana (21) & Trey (24)
    
    

16. Treat Them Like Any Other Friend

    "Even if you're just hooking up with them, everyone deserves basic respect and kindness. Don't be a dick."
    
    - Jasmine (18) & Ronaldo (20)
    
    

17. Keep Social Media Out Of It

    "It's weird if you start commenting heart emojis on all their pictures and posting them when you're not a couple. Just leave social media alone when it comes to each other."
    
    - Dana (23) & Adam (25)
    
    

18. Don't Guilt-Trip Them For Flaking

    "If you're expecting to see them and something suddenly comes up to where they can't make it, don't hold it over their heads. Don't keep track of how many times they flake on you and just reschedule."
    
    - Sofia (21) & Lauren (21)
    
    

19. Gifts for Girls and Guys Aren't Required

    "Whether it's their birthday or they're celebrating a new job, you don't have to get them anything. Sex is a perfectly fine gift."
    
    - Ella (29) & Daniel (27)
    
    

20. Never Lie to Your Sex Partner

    "The only way this works is if you're honest. Never lie about your feelings or if you're seeing someone else and be open and honest with one another."
    
    - Gustavo (24) & Lewis (25)
    
    

21. Don't Hit Them Up At Inappropriate Times

    "If you know they're at work, school, or even on a date, don't hit them up asking for sex. It's rude and annoying."
    
    - Chelsea (25) & Scott (26)
    
    

22. They Don't Owe You Anything

    "You can, and should, only rely on this person for a good time and not much else. They don't have to do much for you, or anything at all, outside of sex."
    
    - Kelsey (20) & John (22)
    
    

23. Talk About Everything

    "Communication is still important even though you're not in a relationship. Whenever there's an issue, or you're unclear about something, talk about it."
    
    - Samantha (23) & Jonathan (23)
    
    

24. Set Boundaries with Casual Sex Relationships

    "If you don't want them hitting you up at a certain time, or there's something you won't do during sex, let them know that. One of the biggest sexual mistakes you can make, is not setting boundaries and getting mad when your partner annoys you. Only do what you're comfortable with and make sure you both lay it out for one another."
    
    - Paula (22) & Brandon (24)
    
    

25. Have Fun With It

    "Enjoy your time together. Have fun with the sex and explore things you haven't tried before; it'll keep it from getting boring and repetitive."
    
    - Kristina (25) & Fernando (27)