Not all of us are blessed with impeccable game when it comes to hooking up, resulting in getting whoever we want to have sex with coming home with us. That leaves others who have no idea how to talk to the opposite sex, don't know how to move the conversation forward, or just suck at landing hookups to revel in jealousy. But if you've ever wondered how you can get anyone you want to hook up with you, don't worry, I've got you covered. I'll help you get laid even if whether it's with an ex, a stranger, or a former friend with benefits.
Here are five steps to follow to get anyone you want to have sex with you.
Any girl who's walked down a street can tell you that there are some disrespectful a-holes out there who think that catcalling will somehow make them want to have sex with them, but I'm here to tell you that that's never true. If you see a pretty girl you want to get in bed with, you don't want to be the kind of guy who yells out "Ay mami!" or say something about her body as she's walking by.
I don't know who told men that that would work, but it doesn't.
When you approach a girl anywhere, whether it be the club, a bar, the grocery store, or school, you should never be crude. Save that stuff for later. But what you should be is respectful, kind, and genuine. When you're out, and you see a girl you'd like to talk to and hopefully get in her pants later, the best thing to do is act like you don't. Striking up a natural conversation without any cues for sex, or that you find her attractive, might seem like its defeating the point, but trust me, it'll work in your favor. Genuine conversation with a woman where she doesn't feel an overwhelming sense of sexual pressure is so rare these days that they'll appreciate you for being different, and you'll stand out in their minds subconsciously.
Don't creepily stare at her for an extended period of time, use dumb pick-up lines, come on too strong, and never touch her unless she wants you to. You should also follow her cues and body language, and recognize when a girl isn't interested and just leave her alone instead of trying to force conversation. Being a calm, laid-back guy when trying to hit on a girl and get her to come home with you can do more for you than you'd ever imagine.
If you're going to approach a girl, then you need to be confident enough in yourself that you don't lash out if she rejects you, and to know how to have a conversation with her. Insecurity is easy to spot on men, and if she's not interested in talking to you, you never want to be that guy at the bar that starts yelling at the women who curve him and calling them whores.
It's not a good look.
Also, if you're on the more timid side, that's okay, but just remember that if you come off as too scared to even talk to her, usually, she won't see you as someone she could have fun with in bed. It's a little unfair of an assumption, but that's the way it is. You want to appear as if you're unphased by whether or not she finds you attractive, and just talk to her like you would anyone else you didn't secretly want to fuck. Confidence is shown in the way that you speak, dress, carry yourself, and how you treat other people. Make sure you feel like you're best if you're going out with the hopes of meeting someone by dressing the part, getting your hygiene right, hold your head high, and be respectful, and soon enough, you'll attract somebody.
While I did say to come off as though you're not trying to get in bed with her, you still want to make it clear that you're interested in her.
This can be done in a multitude of ways.
If your attempts at talking to her are going well, and you're engaging in good conversation, then you should go ahead and try to build up sexual tension. Most girls will make it very clear when they're not interested in you and want you to leave them alone, but if you've been talking with her for a while, and she doesn't look like she wants to bolt to the nearest exit, then you're already on a good path to hooking up. If you can manage to create sexual tension between the two of you, then you'll have her in the palm of your hands. Everyone knows that sexual tension is the worst, and it drives people nuts. Once you have that with somebody it's hard to ignore, so you can bet she's going to want to do something about it. Subtlety is your best friend, but don't be too subtle to where you're confusing her, and she's not sure whether you want to hook up or not.
Once you've secured the bag, you want to make sure you're attentive. The number one way to tell if a girl wants to hook up with you is to ask her. You don't have to flat-out say "Do you want to have sex?" but you could say something like, "Would you want to go back to my place?" if you met her out somewhere. Once you're on your way to wherever you're going to have sex, you want to ask again once you get there. Asking things along the way like "Is it okay if I touch you here?" and "Do you want to keep going?" makes it clear that you want to have sex, and it'll also be clear if she wants to or not.
But besides asking things consent-wise, you should also be asking her what she wants from you, and more importantly, what she wants you to do to her. This will make her remember you and maybe even get a call back from her. You want to make the sex about them just as much as it is about you. When you do this with everyone you have sex with, they're likely to want to fuck you again, again, and again… and soon enough you'll have a . It'll help you out in the long run, plus, it's just basic sex etiquette.